Some couples ask each other, "Why will ours be successful?"
Most times, we find ourselves guilty of placing more emphasis on planning the Wedding than thinking about the intricacies of the actual Marriage.
And being quite honest, the wedding is the easiest part!
After dating, finally the proposal comes! And there is this great excitement to proclaim your love infront of your selected family and friends. The details of how it will look, where it will take place, what you envision yourself looking like....all these things consume your thoughts.
But what about when it's all done? Hmmm...
Some couples take that extra time to seek marriage counselling (which comes in different forms) and some couples choose not to.
The reality of marriage is that, it will never be perfect!
There will always be difference in opinions, external frustrations etc. that causes conflict and ill-feelings, which is not unique to any one couple.
We sometimes find ourselves accusing one another, making harsh statements, involving biased individuals and not being able to accept when we are wrong.
Prior to marriage, it is always important for both individuals to outline any outstanding issues - as anything unresolved will surely resurrect at some point in the future. You also want to express your expectations in marriage from your partner, what roles each person will assume and the most effective (and healthy) ways to communicate.
The best tools to exercise in marriage is Compromise and Communication.
As humans, we tend to be selfish at times...that's normal. However, in marriage, there is no longer a "you" or "me" - it's "us".
There will be difference in opinions when it comes to spending, family, household chores, friends etc. It is important to acknowledge the differences; it doesn't mean you need to agree but there needs to be a common ground.
External frustrations can put a strain on your relationship; this can be work, children, school, family, illness and the list goes on. It's important for you to communicate this to our partner, so there is mutual understanding, and comfort when needed.
Celebrating accomplishments is important too. When your partner shows improvements, it is necessary for you to acknowledge, compliment and reward.
Make time for date night! Daily routines can get the best of us...but we need to make spending quality time a priority in our own special way.
When we have relationship issues, rather than just pointing them out, provide a reasonable solution that will be beneficial to both persons.
Always provide that listening ear...being an attentive listener can be a task but it allows you to really connect with your partner.
It is easy for couples to give up on each other...but it takes a lot more to work through the issues, to become better individuals and to become a stronger couple.
We invite you to share your thoughts with us...I am sure our readers would love to hear more on this topic!